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The Short
This piece is equal parts confession and hot take. Here's the crux of my soapbox (tl;dr) : giving someone a gift that is anything less than perfect for them is inherently unsustainable. That's a lot of pressure, but I'll give you some helpful hints by the end. Promise!
Gift buying/giving is a subject that holds a somewhat uncomfortable place in my life. I have a fairly strong aversion to receiving gifts. There are very few things in the world that I want, and when I want something, I want a very specific version of it. To be precise, it's not that I hate being gifted exactly what I want, it is just incredibly rare that someone manages to get that for me. So it's the anticipation of receiving things I won't use that I struggle with.
Ironically, I deeply enjoy finding the perfect gift for someone I love, but mostly I love stumbling upon said gift. I don’t like the contrived motivators that holidays and birthdays are. I find that that often produces sub-par gifts, unless you’re someone who spends the 11 months and 29 days between those occasions with a constant eye out for all your favorite people. I'm not that person.
Working in retail means that I talk about gifts with people more often than the average person, and I've noticed an interesting trend. With some regularity, a person will walk into Ware on a gift mission. They will proceed to pick out a product or two and proclaim that the giftee "already has something just like this," before putting the product back on the shelf. To which I challenge, "sounds like that's the perfect gift for them, then. You know they'll love it." I maintain that we (in the US) have established a culture around gift-giving wherein we often try to broaden someone's horizons by giving gifts that are similar to something they would like, but different (often in a way that makes the gift more along the lines of something we would like to receive). In the end, gift recipients everywhere are left with a collection of things that they almost like, and many of us are left wanting our friend to like their gifts as much as we do. Knowing a gift is perfectly in line with what someone already has is a good indicator that it will be both appreciated and used.
A HUGE component of sustainability in both products and lifestyle considerations is functionality. If it doesn't work, and work well, you'll be looking for another product to either fully take its place or fill in the gaps where it doesn't work quite right. One example that often comes to mind are the 3 or 4 different gadgets that exist for the very specific steps involved in peeling and de-pitting an avocado. If you have a sharp knife and google, you can do all of that in less time, with fewer utensils to clean, and with fewer pieces of plastic brought into the world just to make toast and guacamole.
We can lump durability and timelessness in with this rule. If something only works for brief period of time, that means we'll be looking to replace it more often than would be necessary with a product that doesn't break (or can easily be fixed) and never grows unattractive in your eyes.
As a side note, sentimentality is a function, but one that is incredibly subjective. You much know your audience to play this card.
So, to help provide a solution to the rather inconvenient conundrum I've presented, I've put together a gift guide in the literal sense of the term - some general themes and categories to help guide you or inspire you in your quest for the perfect gift.
*Bonus tip* How you wrap your gift is also important! Nearly all gift wrapping paper as we know it is not recyclable. Tape and ribbon definitely aren't. At Ware, we use recyclable (and recycled) butcher paper or kraft boxes and ribbon that is made from old silk saris. In the store, we top our holiday gifts with a dried orange slice ornament because it's festive and readily biodegradable. However, you can avoid even this amount of relatively responsible waste and wrap your gift in a bandana or scarf - this is called furoshiki, and the internet has tons of great tutorials for getting creative with it. Like this one...
If you don't know a person well enough to make the kinds of decisions needed to give them a gift they will actually use, you should probably question why you feel compelled to give them anything at all. There are plenty of valid reasons to still be gifting folks you don't know well (distant family exchanges, etc.), but even then, ask around for information. One less useless gift is one less thing in the trash (or recycling of thrift store).
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